PART SEVEN - Steps A Women Can Take

Below are a few simple, common sense and rewarding steps a mother can take to improver her own health and well being, along with creating a more balanced environment for the healthy sexual development of her unborn child:

1. Learn to Meditate
Meditation does so much for peace of mind, spirit and the physical body. Meditation is very much like being able to put on the breaks during your daily life. Once you learn to meditate for 5 to 20 minutes and practice on a daily basis, you will be able to calm your world whenever you desire, to bring peace and balance into your world.

2. Practice Yoga
Yoga is an excellent way for women and pregnant mothers to balance the energies between their mind and body. Yoga stretches/poses enable will enable you to release the stresses of the day or of your life, through long slow stretching poses, and deep breathing. Practicing Yoga on a daily bases helps slow down your world, bring balance between your body and mind, and helps release any stress locked in your body.

3. Take Solitary Walks
Walking is one of the most beneficial physical movements you can do for yourself. Not only does it help with increasing your lung capacity and endurance, it helps all the organs of your body function more efficiently. From maintaining a healthy digestive system, gaining strength in legs and lower body, walking also helps with physical balance and coordination. A solitary walk is very beneficial as it give you time to experience nature, and be quiet with your thoughts. What’s important is slow deep breathing inhaling through your nose to fill lower stomach and slowly pushing out through your nose. How you walk is important also. Don’t forget to move those hips and enjoy being a feminine woman.

4. Spend More Time With Nature
Women are more naturally connected with nature than they give themselves credit for. Your menstrual cycles are in coordination with the cycles of the moon for one thing, which ties all cycles of life together and maintains natural balance in our world.

Plants: Spending time in nature surroundings, tending to your inside and outside plants of your garden helps you reconnect with that balanced energy that is nature. Since the plants of nature do not worry about finances and being loved, they are great to provide balanced energy to you so you can get back on track.

Not so good with plants? Here are a few tips that will help you find balance with your plants. (1) Always use filtered water, never chlorinated tap water; it dries out the plants and burns the tips of the leaves. (2) Put a natural stone in every house plant, the stone has the constant and natural energy vibration of the earth. Remember, stones are of the earth. Just like the heartbeat of the mother that soothes the new born child, plants need to be connected to mother earth to thrive.

If you want to actually feel the energy vibrations from stones, just place a stone in the palm of your open left hand, close your eyes, and using Buddha Breathing as if meditating, which is breathing deeply, expanding your lower stomach when inhaling. You will feel a pulsing like a heart beat. That’s the natural ‘Chi’ energy of the earth pulsating from the stone.

5. Avoid Most Media
Most women don’t realize that media advertisement from radio, TV and magazines can be the most damaging to them from a security and self esteem perspective. Consistently in order to sell you a product, the commercial will tell you that you are ‘less’ of a women, or ‘less’ attractive and until you purchase their product you will not be attractive or loved. A suggestion is to use Digital Video Recorder (DVR) and skip past the commercials, and only record shows you want to watch that empower you as a woman, as a mother.

6. Listen To Instrumental, Jazz, Classical music
Just like affirmations or prayer, the words in songs you listen to help you created how you feel about yourself, and the experiences of your life. The more you listen to music about bad relationships and frustration, the more you will experience this in your life. You might think the artist is ‘speaking to you’, but as you sing along, you are affirming those same experiences to be created in your life. Instead try listening to music without words, during this first trimester. You will quickly find that your mind is less filled with negative thoughts about yourself or your life, but uplifted to the point of singing your own words to the instrumental songs, empowering yourself that much more.

If you have cable or satellite TV, there are many jazz, instrumental and classical commercial free music channels to play if you like having something uplifting in the background while at home, instead of a television program. Remember, your child is listening too.


7. Find Balance In Stressful Relationships
If you know you are struggling in your current relationship with the child’s potential father or child’s father, this three month period is the time to find a common ground. If not for you, but for your unborn child. Maybe it’s time to end or distance yourself from that person for the health of your child. Maybe it’s time to re-think who you are choosing to have a child with. It’s all about finding a balance and relationship choices made out of loneliness or desperation are never the healthiest choices to make.

8. Ask For Help
Don’t be afraid to ask for help during this time period. Let others take on more of the work load at the office; ask for more time off, ask friends and family to help more with your current children so you can have more time to yourself. Get the father involved and let him know what he can do to help you remain balanced. Avoid volunteering for more project so that you have more time for yourself. You will be surprised at how many people who are willing to lend a helping hand once they know you are going to be a new mother. Use your mother power!

9. Pamper Yourself
I can’t say this enough. Not only for the health of your child, but for your own well being. Just think about it. You are in the process of bringing new life into the world. This is a time to treat yourself well. Pamper yourself by doing things like getting a pedicure and manicure on a regular basis. Schedule a facial once a week. Get a massage as often as you can. During this three month period, schedule events that celebrate your pregnancy and pamper you on a regular basis.

10. Have A Party
Be creative, even think about holding a ‘Pamper the Mother’ party for yourself or one of your girlfriends who just became pregnant. The focus could be to provide gift certificates for spa treatments, luncheons, shopping trips, etc all focused on pampering the new mother during the first trimester. This pampering time could be very helpful for mothers to balance out the lack of attention the mother may receive once the child is born. Save the baby shower for later which focuses on the child material needs.